The Short Guide to Finding and Keeping a Wife and Family for Shy, Awkward, Ethical Men

Dear shy, ethical guys: you exist for good reasons. For generations, women and their parents in the Northern Hemisphere, chose guys like you because of your abilities to be faithful, work hard, provide resources for children, and feel anxieties when doing something wrong. Stop feeling inferior.

Unfortunately, in today's societies, devoted to egoism, hedonism, and Machiavellianismyour strengths become mating liabilities.

The game literature is little help. Game literature is unspecific, contradictory or unsupported by evidence, the sort of advice that leaves shy guys confused and under confident, exactly what you don't want to happen. Worse, the self described pick up artists slur more ethical men as betas. Fortunately, there is help in Sex Signals: The Biology of Love by Timothy Perper, an old, overlooked book.

Sex Signals shows the step by step flow of initial meetings. Look for Perper's book on Worldcat or an online bookstore.

Some other points to remember:

1. Which is better? Asking one bad woman on a date, knowing she will say yes? Or asking 100 good women on dates but only one says yes? The second, of course. Those who ask women most get the best women. Some men use rejection therapy or make a sport of rejection, taking perverse pride in being rejected. Once you know enough about psychology and body language, you easily notice when women want to be asked out.
2. When a woman backs off, you back off. Never become obsessed with any woman who rejects you or seems indifferent or reveals bad character. Thousands of other women exist. Desperation almost never works. Let it go and distract yourself with other activities.
3. Walk with confidence, groom well, get in shape, work on your voice.
4. If you have a hard time keeping conversations going around strangers, pull a George Costanza. Put conversation crib notes in your wallet.
5. If you feel overwhelmed in a situation, laugh inside and imagine you are wearing the Fecal Vision glasses from the old Saturday Night Live skit. Or imagine you are talking to a puppy or a lost soul. 
6. Stick to your strengths. Focus on your ability as an earner, potential father, and ethical person. Women unable to appreciate those things are not worth your time anyway.
7. Stay away from night clubs. You won't do well on the alpha's turf. The advice in Perper's book works just as well on casual dates as it does in night clubs. Go where women outnumber men: classes, churches, and stores popular with women.
8. Remember that relationships always come with costs. A woman is unlikely to solve your other problems.
9. Remember: the cool guys have feet of clay. Their shtick wears thin with most women because they have few moral pursuits and edifying interests. Even being a male friend of cool guys gets boring and odious. Whether conscious of it or not, the cool guys are using an evolutionary r strategy, as are most of the women interested in them. Neither group has much to offer you.
10. Read John Gottman's advice on how to make a relationship work. 
11. Read up on body language. With some aspects of your personality and body language, fake it until you make it. For example, I once touched my face and neck in neurotic ways. Doing so was unconscious for me then. But after years of not doing those neurotic self-touches, I feel perfectly fine never doing them. (But with some aspects of personality, if it constantly feels too awkward, stop doing it.)
12. Avoid self-deprecation. Women thought self-deprecation was humorous 25 years ago. They don't any more.
13. Don't misrepresent your character. It's unethical and you probably wont be able to fake it for long anyway.
14. Don't fall for nurture assumptions. Your parents' parenting styles didn't affect you and yours won't affect your children. Raise your children in larger environments with little Randism, militarism, cultural Marxism and other evils, then don't worry about the rest. Some kids turn out good, some turn out bad, not much you can do to directly mold them. Fortunately, more of your children will turn out decent than the children of r practitioners. Your children will be unlikely to turn your life into a living hell because they have your genes and you wisely—I hope!—engaged in assortative mating, choosing a spouse with similar ethical characteristics.